Divorce is rarely a simple or easy decision to make. It can have enormous consequences, particularly if children are involved, and the emotional and physical toll can be hard on everyone. But if one’s mate is drinking into oblivion every night or not helping with the kids or finances or screams and blames everyone else or has emotionally shut down years ago isn’t it a “no brainer”to divorce?
Clients in my practice ask me all the time,” Shouldn’t I leave if I am not happy and my partner is behaving poorly? ”Of course, if you or your children are in any kind of danger, there is no question, you must do whatever it takes to be safe from harm. But when danger or abuse is not the issue my answer most often is, do all that you can to recognize and change your part in the unhealthy dynamic, than you can make a more informed decision.
By Debbie Pincus, LMHC Debbie is trained in Gestalt and Family Systems therapy. She is a parent and marriage coach and specializes in relationship counseling. She is the author of seven books on interpersonal relations as well as the writer of the CD series and book entitled, “Calm Parent, AM & PM.” She writes monthly online articles for Empowering Parents. Ms. Pincus facilitates parents and divorce groups and sees individuals and couples for therapy and parent/marriage coaching in Manhattan, Larchmont and Greenwich, CT. Please contact her at: Email: email@example.com Phone: (914) 834-4965 Web Site: www.debbiepincus.com
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